tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7413024568415423699.post2990074764233416649..comments2024-01-28T15:54:50.497-08:00Comments on from the Biblio Files: Tamar and TinaJenni Frenchamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05350704405611264067noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7413024568415423699.post-64783286357584913792011-11-18T12:00:25.176-08:002011-11-18T12:00:25.176-08:00Jenni,
Thanks for posting this. What a smart and ...Jenni, <br />Thanks for posting this. What a smart and kind thing for your pastor to do! GO HER! :) Sometimes just saying "this is hard, and I don't like it" makes all the difference in the world! Also, thank you for being brave. My prayers are with you.Katherinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01057706896042656052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7413024568415423699.post-45753725555838010082011-11-17T12:42:46.834-08:002011-11-17T12:42:46.834-08:00I'd have to agree. I have wondered what it...I'd have to agree. I have wondered what it'd be like to grow up with that knowledge the whole time instead of being assaulted again by flashbacks as an adult, but I can't imagine that living with the memories the whole time would have been any easier. I'm not glad for what happened to me, but I am glad that I can work to help others now.Jenni Frenchamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05350704405611264067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7413024568415423699.post-23266355084156855892011-11-17T10:58:15.033-08:002011-11-17T10:58:15.033-08:00BTW, I didn't have flashbacks, I just always k...BTW, I didn't have flashbacks, I just always knew what happened and kept it secret (at first because I was told it was "our secret" and then because I realized it was wrong and I was embarrassed and ashamed). I don't know which is worse...growing up and living with the shame or living obliviously and then being bombarded with traumatic flashbacks. :( I think we both lose there.AKKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17867571967856368338noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7413024568415423699.post-22922163232802125512011-11-17T10:54:49.247-08:002011-11-17T10:54:49.247-08:00I've never reported my abuser either. Although...I've never reported my abuser either. Although I have confronted him via email as an adult. He actually did acknowledge how he'd hurt me (tricked abuse) and apologized. According to him, he was just a messed up kid (he was 16) who was also being abused. Part of me feels that was enough, since he swore he'd never done it again. But another part of me feels terrible guilt for not reporting him somehow, even though by the time I was strong enough to speak up and say something it was also way past the statute of limitations.AKKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17867571967856368338noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7413024568415423699.post-50413862312137453342011-11-17T08:33:25.910-08:002011-11-17T08:33:25.910-08:00No, nothing was ever done to my uncle. I didn'...No, nothing was ever done to my uncle. I didn't remember the abuse until a couple of years ago (talk about a traumatic series of flashbacks!), and by then the statute of limitations had passed in both states where he raped me. I am still trying to figure out how to report him now, not to seek justice for myself, but to protect others. However, it's complicated by the lack of inter-state cooperation, so I'm still researching exactly whom I should report to.Jenni Frenchamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05350704405611264067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7413024568415423699.post-2743754066982875872011-11-17T08:13:50.365-08:002011-11-17T08:13:50.365-08:00Also, I wanted to ask. Was anything ever done to y...Also, I wanted to ask. Was anything ever done to your uncle?AKKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17867571967856368338noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7413024568415423699.post-50269776840519944162011-11-17T08:09:36.246-08:002011-11-17T08:09:36.246-08:00Thank you for sharing your story, Jenni. What make...Thank you for sharing your story, Jenni. What makes me so furious about the situation is the seeming lack of empathy people have. Is it because they try not to think about certain things because it's too vile to imagine? Or is it because many people have a "that wouldn't happen in my neighborhood" mentality? But the truth is, like you said, sexual abuse is not limited to trailer parks and "at risk" children. This is an issue that happens in middle class and upper class homes as well! It could happen to anyone's child! And every child, regardless of race, sex, nationality, social, or economic status, deserves to be protected equally.AKKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17867571967856368338noreply@blogger.com